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Sandra Yvonne's avatar

💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

Sending lots of love your way, Rachael.

Thank you for sharing these bits of your Papa here.

I love that picture of him; he looks like a gentle badass in those sunglasses.

& I bet his adobo was yummy. I've never had it, but the day I do, it'll be in his honor.

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you, Sandra. A gentle badass he was. I hope you enjoy your first bowl of abodo 💙

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Silvio Castelletti's avatar

Beautiful, Rach. So sorry for your loss. I feel grief is such a manipulated emotion, a word to which society generally gives a negative connotation. But grief is remembrance, it's remaining attached, it's feeling the presence of the departed. You don't want to lose these things. And so sometimes we say that somebody has finally exited their grieving period after a loss, almost as if they've been liberated. Why? Why would we want to feel liberated of the intense, immediate memories of our loved ones, when they're no longer with us? I welcome grief. I want grief. I grieve as long as I want to. I don't need any help to get me out of grief. "Yet despite the sting, the ache, and numbness of it, grief is a gift." <3

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Gosh Silvio, thank you for the beautiful comment. It resonates with me deeply. The older I get, the more I'm learning that grief is not something to fear. It's something to stare into, to hold, to massage, and to let sit within us. It may feel heavy, but it also can move us forward

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Becky Isjwara's avatar

My condolences, Rachael. Thanks for sharing a part of him with us.

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you, Becky ❤️

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Kathryn Vercillo's avatar

Hugs. Beautiful share. My father passed the day before Christmas seven months ago so it's poignant for me. Grief is awful but it does refocus us in an amazingly powerful way.

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you, Kathryn. Hugs back to you, and I'm wishing you and your family peace around the holidays, and every day.

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Linda Landels's avatar

This brought me to tears….loss is tremendous it never leaves us. And you captured that aspect of grief.

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Brent Lyman's avatar

Sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man who purposefully affected many with positivity!

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Brent

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Rick Lewis's avatar

God bless your Papa, and the example of a purpose filled life that he gave you.

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you, Rick ❤️

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James Bailey's avatar

“I believe he aspired towards service, harmony, freedom, and nurturing the lives of his loved ones.”

So beautiful. What a gift he was to you.

Author Jamie Anderson wrote: “Grief, is love with nowhere to go.”

I find the place for it to go is Gratitude. And that exudes in your tribute to your Papa. ❤️

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Rachael Tiss's avatar

Thank you so much, James. “Grief, is love with nowhere to go.” I feel this deeply and will remember these words.

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Christin Chong, PhD's avatar

Thank you for sharing stories of your grandfather. What a remarkable man!

Keeping you in my heart.

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